Are you feeling Lonely?
Loneliness is not the same as solitude. We can experience it even when we’re surrounded by many people. Loneliness means to feel:
- Disconnected, cut off or isolated from the rest of the world.
- Unloved by those around you.
- You have no one to share personal experiences and feelings with.
- You have no other choice than to be alone.
- Your life is missing something important.
- You have difficulty in making friends and developing relationships deeper than acquaintances.
- Afraid of being rejected in social situations.
“I’m surrounded by people but I feel so alone.” Am I the only one? Anyone who has made major changes in their life knows the feeling only too well. Going to college, ending a relationship, changing jobs, moving across the country or across the world can leave us feeling disconnected, for a time. Usually the feeling subsides as we meet new people and become familiar and comfortable with our environment.
It’s hard to make new friends or approach others socially in a new situation, but you can’t let that stop you! Often, lonely people don’t attempt to make friends or develop relationships because they are afraid of being rejected.
Does this sound like you?
• You falsely assume that nobody likes you and blame others.
• You become self-conscious and worried about being evaluated by your professors or peers.
• You don’t make an attempt to get involved in social activities and avoid meeting new people. Taking Action! You can overcome loneliness, you to identify the problem and take positive action. Here are some ways to over-come loneliness:
• Get involved! Participate in activities on campus.